When I write about abortion, frequently that comment comes, “If you don’t want a baby, why not just choose adoption?” With the “Don’t Be Fooled by Fake Clinics” campaign we have going on, I’ve seen some version of this question many times over the course of the month.
For the record, no woman is obligated to serve as an incubator against her will. But we should also recognize that there’s lots of reasons behind each woman’s personal decision of what is right for her. For instance, keeping an unwanted pregnancy and giving a baby up for adoption would be the wrong decision for me.
I don’t believe life begins at conception, so if I were facing an unwanted pregnancy, abortion would be the obvious decision; I’d have no reason to remain pregnant. But there’s actually more to it than simply the desire not to be pregnant. If I carried the pregnancy to term, creating a new life, I would feel inextricably responsible for the baby. I find it difficult to imagine giving that child up for adoption; I couldn’t be sure that he or she would be provided a good life; I’d feel constantly anxious and guilty. The morally right thing for me to do, given my beliefs, would be to have an abortion and not allow that zygote to develop into a life.
This stance isn’t informed by a belief that adoption is bad; props to you if you’ve welcomed an adopted child into your family. If I ever determined I wanted a kid, I would most likely adopt (probably an older child, since they have more trouble finding homes). Yet I wouldn’t try to get pregnant just so I could have a baby and give it up to the system for a hopefully happy adoption, and for me, not having an abortion would amount to the same thing. I feel that it would be wrong for me to allow a life to be created with no plan to take care of it when I have access and no objection to abortion.